Many women have turned to the 6-6-6 rule to identify potential matches on dating apps, but this approach may not be the most effective way to find a suitable partner.
According to the New York Post, women have been tailoring their search criteria on dating apps to find men who meet the 6-6-6 rule —those who are 6-feet-tall, have six-pack abs, and earn over six figures. However, this narrow focus significantly reduces the pool of potential matches. Dating coach and matchmaker Judith Gottesman noted to the Post that by limiting their options, women may be missing out on some truly great connections.
“What matters is the connection you have and that you respect, trust and love each other,” the dating guru said. According to Gottesman, women should prioritize finding a partner who shares similar lifestyle choices, life goals, and interests, as this can lead to more meaningful connections.
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Manage your expectations.
Amber Soletti, another dating expert, advises that rather than establishing rigid criteria like the 6-6-6 rule to eliminate potential matches, women should identify “dating deal-breakers” that center on key factors such as politics, children, and marriage. However, she encourages women to remain flexible and open-minded about their list of requirements.
“I have met tons of singles through my dating events — both men and women — who have crazy expectations for their partner and I feel sad for a lot of them who are clearly feeling lonely and going to remain single forever,” Soletti explained. “If you try to compromise on those types of deal-breakers, you are going to end up in a relationship with a lot of arguing, resentment and eventual demise. She added, “Don’t throw out all of your criteria. Just be willing to compromise on some.”
While the 6-6-6 rule may not be the most effective approach, tailoring your dating search can help you strengthen your chances of finding romance faster. A 2021 study conducted by Penn State University and The College of New Jersey explored how online dating apps filter potential matches. Users can either customize their preferences directly or rely on the app’s system to suggest matches based on their profiles. The study investigated how these different approaches affect users’ perceptions of the quality of suggested dates and the overall app service. For instance, Chemistry.com and eHarmony.com utilize specific user characteristics, such as personality test results, to inform their algorithms when suggesting potential partners. In contrast, platforms like Match.com enable users to directly specify the traits they seek in a partner, including height, weight, income, education level, and preferences regarding smoking, drinking, and family planning.
In a between-subjects experiment with 184 participants, the findings revealed that while personalization outperformed the absence of tailoring and customization surpassed personalization, the best results came from combining both strategies. This combination led participants to perceive a significantly higher proportion of date-worthy partners, despite the gallery of potential matches being identical across all conditions.
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